This is something I’ve known for a long time, but really noticed the difference when visiting NYC.
People dress way better in the Big Apple. They’re very trendy, like FIVE years ahead of us. Happy to report all Canadians will be rocking leather skirts in 2019!!
But to be serious, I was starting to feel a little uneasy about my social confidence after seeing all these well dressed peeps.
“I need to get better fitting pants!” I said to myself. Dudes rolled up there pants a bit more than usual in NYC. Is that cool? What will people think if I did this in conservative Calgary? All these stellar thoughts started entering my mind.
But overall, from my experience, you feel a whole lot BETTER when you dress better. This maybe saying the obvious, but people perceive you quite differently when you wear a tailored suit vs. a sleeveless denim jacket. It’s the difference of actually having the sales reps talk to you. Try it out yourself.
Please don’t listen to this talk: “it doesn’t matter how you look” and “if you have to dress well, than you’re not talking to the right people”. This is a fallacy.
My more fashion aware friends in Soho forced me to wear better fitting darks pants and dark shirt before we walked to this trendy roof top club. And guess what happened? I definitely got more looks than usual.
BTW, I’ve heard that wearing leather boots on a date gives you a leg up. I’m gonna test this out.
On the Art of Manliness blog, they mention that shoes are VERY important “despite covering only 5% of your body they can make-up more than 30% of the visual judgement we make when sizing up a stranger.” Read more by clicking here. In other words: Don’t wear some ragged ass beat up gym shoes on dates.
To get more deeper, this is all about the psychology of feeling good. You want to be in a good mood more often. There’s this idea called the state of transference. This means whatever state you’re in is the state the other person will feel too. I’m not making this up!
If you’re laughing other people will also laugh. There is this book – Emotional intelligence- it elaborates on how we have mirror neurons where others can feel intuitively your emotional state. It’s super fascinating. You can read a quick wikipedia version by clicking here. Anyways, over time you wanna get to a point where your emotional state is based on yourself, not affected by others.
Wearing better clothes is a good start.