dressing better

This is something I’ve known for a long time, but really noticed the difference when visiting NYC.

People dress way better in the Big Apple. They’re very trendy, like FIVE years ahead of us.  Happy to report all Canadians will be rocking leather skirts in 2019!!

swagger

But to be serious, I was starting to feel a little uneasy about my social confidence after seeing all these well dressed peeps.

“I need to get better fitting pants!” I said to myself.  Dudes rolled up there pants a bit more than usual in NYC.  Is that cool? What will people think if I did this in conservative Calgary?  All these stellar thoughts started entering my mind.

But overall, from my experience, you feel a whole lot BETTER when you dress better.  This maybe saying the obvious, but people perceive you quite differently when you wear a tailored suit vs. a sleeveless denim jacket. It’s the difference of actually having the sales reps talk to you. Try it out yourself.

Please don’t listen to this talk:  “it doesn’t matter how you look” and  “if you have to dress well,  than you’re not talking to the right people”. This is a fallacy.

My more fashion aware friends in Soho forced me to wear better fitting darks pants and dark shirt before we walked to this trendy roof top club. And guess what happened?  I definitely got more looks than usual.

BTW, I’ve heard that wearing leather boots on a date gives you a leg up. I’m gonna test this out.

On the Art of Manliness blog, they mention that shoes are VERY important  “despite covering only 5% of your body they can make-up more than 30% of the visual judgement we make when sizing up a stranger.”  Read more by clicking here. In other words:  Don’t wear some ragged ass beat up gym shoes on dates.

To get more deeper, this is all about the psychology of feeling good.  You want to be in a good mood more often.  There’s this idea called the state of transference. This means whatever state you’re in is the state the other person will feel too.  I’m not making this up!

If you’re laughing other people will also laugh. There is this book – Emotional intelligence- it elaborates on how we have mirror neurons where others can feel intuitively your emotional state.  It’s super fascinating. You can read a quick wikipedia version by clicking here.  Anyways, over time you wanna get to a point where your emotional state is based on yourself, not affected by others.

Wearing better clothes is a good start.

keeping backups

Recently I’ve been a huge fan of buying duplicates of something.

  • Two Macbook pro chargers (one at work, one in my bag). Same with phone chargers. Extra earphones. It’s funny how reluctant I was to do this.
  • Extra gym shirts. So I don’t wear the same ol sweaty ones over again.
  • Buy more groceries. My freezer is full of meat. I tend to run out of food, so this forces me to make more food at home, instead of visiting Mucho Burrito or some healthy fast food or my weakness – Shawarma – for a meal. Still working on this.
  • Extra Pens in the apartment and in my bag. I do a lot of writing in my notebook. I always lose pens.
  • Extra Floss. Actually been flossing more in past one year and a half, cos it’s always there in my bathroom.

In hindsight, the extra $50 improved my quality of life in a huge way.

I’m curious, what’s one inexpensive purchase you made that improved your life in a BIG way?

summer 2014 videos

I had a decently eventful summer this year. Many weddings attended. Not a lot of travelling apart from San Francisco and just very recently NYC.

I happened to document some of these memories onto video. Check ’em out:

Nothing too embarrassing I hope!! I edited the bad parts out.

Summer Shenanigans 2014:

Also my ALS Ice Bucket Challenge Vid

I ll get better at making these.  I really enjoy filming and editing.

Need to invest in some better tools ie video equipment. And devote more time to editing.

Enjoy,

Nishant

get more play in your life

It’s a New Year.

New Way, New Life.

Now to back track a bit, in mid-December I threw an Ugly Xmas sweater party.

You must have heard of these before?

It’s where people wear ugly christmas sweaters and drink egg nog from a ski (shot ski). It’s a great way to meet up with old friends and make new ones as well.

This time I decided to create some hype for the party by making a series of promo videos. I posted these on a weekly basis on the FB event wall to build anticipation.

The result?

A quick survey at the party indicated that only half in attendance actually watched the videos! But those who did – loved it and more  importantly than anything else –  it was A LOT of FUN for ME to make.

Below is a 3 part series from the Making of the Shot Ski to  to the introduction of this fictional character called ” Shot Guy”.  I make an appearance in part two and three.

Yes it’s incredibly cheesy, but good fun. My film editing skillz need some upgrading in 2014.

We need more PLAY in our lives.

Some might say sarcastically, “great you made a bunch of silly videos.”

Yes I did.  It was a incredibly fun evening project.  Instead of  sitting at home watching movies off Netflix, why not make some of your own? Creating makes you feel better.

As we grow older we forget about doing things for fun sakes. There is an incredible article in Aeon magazine that talks about children today are suffering a severe deficit of play. Click here to read it.

It’s a quite thought provoking article as it states even children have LESS PLAY in there lives than 50 years ago. This is reducing our creativity, making us less healthier, and more anxious and stressed.

I think if you dig deeper, what other parts of your life are you doing that are boring or just for money?  Can you make it more fun for yourself?

 

P.S. Check out this new book by Charlie Hoehn called Play It Away.  I read his previous ebook to this “Recession Proof Graduate” which I also recommend (in fact I wrote a blog post about it you can read here by clicking here). In Play It Away he talks about he switched from being over-stressed workaholic to someone who treats his work like play! It’s really fascinating read and fast too, so check out at your nearest amazon.com.

play it away

Reading party in a park!

Last night I had a little “reading party” in a nearby park.  Now I’ve held one before, but this time it was more fun because  it was outside and warm!  This doesn’t happen often in Calgary.

Anyways it went swimmingly!  It consisted of hanging out with friends, socializing for an hour, and then reading whatever book each person wanted to read.

Socializing  + Reading + Park = fun event.

Some tricks to get people to the party?

I gave everyone 2 week notice.  In addition to making a facebook event, I personally emailed/phoned most of the people.  A little personal touch goes a long way. It shows you actually want them to come out to this week day event!

Now some still flaked out, but the ones that did attend loved it.

Here are some pics:

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People arrived around 7 pm.  Everyone introduced themselves, etc.

At 8 pm we all read for one hour.  I remember some people getting a little restless for it to turn 8 pm so they could finally get there READ on!

I didn’t have to act library cop at all either. Except towards the end  a couple walking by found it utterly hilarious that 10-12 people were ALL reading in a park and began giggling. LOL.  I immediately gave them the evil eye and  shhh’ed them!  They complied and left.

Anyways this is a simple, fun event you can also hold. I give credit to Nev at nevblog.com for spreading the reading party idea. I tweaked it a bit of course and  it went off well!

Note to self: Bring healthy snacks/drinks for everyone. Oops.

mind/body

Now if you are going to win any battle you

have to do one thing.

You have to make the mind run the body. Never let

the body tell the mind what to do. The body will

always give up. It is always tired morning, noon,

and night. But the body is never tired if the mind

is not tired. When you were younger the mind

could make you dance all night, and the body

was never tired…You’ve always got to make

the mind take over and keep going.

George S. Patton

Nice one General Patton. Nice one.

Discipline of the mind is needed, yeah I agree.  One way to develop this is by MOVING! Exercise has a profound impact on your mind. There is a quick,  must-read book called Brain Rules by John Medina. It talks about how your brain and body are more connected then just by the neck. Walking gets blood to your brain, keeps the neurons connecting.

One super interesting fact : our evolutionary ancestors were used to walking up to 12 miles per day.  We used to have the bodies of Olympians!!!

 We weren’t meant to be sitting in a classroom for 8 hours.. that’s another topic.

My suggestion? Taking one 20 min walk outside  to break up the day.  Over the past 6 months, I’ve been standing while using the laptop more,  instead of sitting.

This one habit actually will help you get more  fit than someone who sits 9-6 on a desk and then works out 2-3 hours at night. Read this if you’re sceptical.

To sum it up:

  • Short Walks outside to break up work day – Obstacle? Yes when it’s cold,  Alberta winters be damned. I need to get Sorel boots.
  • Standing more when working. Try it even for 1 hour a day to get started.
  • Cold showers  – just for 2 mins, nothing insane. Switch to warm/cold to ease into it.  Improves blood circulation, more alert, can help you lose weight too.  Also helps you develop getting used to being uncomfortable. Land more business deals.

Just some simple experiments I’ve been doing past six months. Not gonna lie I go through cycles of sticking to these habits, but at least you’re self-aware of it.

PS: Thinking of getting the Fit Bit device for Christmas.

tweaking your environment

Maybe you’ve heard the joke about the fish in water:

Fish 1: How’s the water?

Fish 2: What the hell is water?

It’s a funny way of saying that when we’re part of something for long enough, we don’t notice we’re part of it. It becomes all there is. Despite all my rage, I’m still just a rat in a cage!  Anyone remember that line from that Smashing Pumpkins tune (click here) ?

Anyways..

I was reminded of this when reading Ikigai by Sebastian Marshall, who talks about very simple tweaks – ie such as placing your gym bag next to the door of your room – physical reminder that makes it easy to pick up do that activity.

I keep my guitar directly in front of my bed to remind me to practice.

A book next to your bed, a book in your bathroom – to keep reading.

The purpose behind this is to create an environment in which the change you seek naturally occurs.

I mean this is just changing the things around you, what about the people that are around you?